Six months after my youngest son came out as transgender, my Grampa passed away. This came during a time when my heart was already raw. I was still navigating the turbulent waters of loss and grief, as I came to accept life without the presence of a daughter in it. There were days when I… Continue reading Using Your Child’s Chosen Name
Over the past several years, I’ve heard a lot of arguments against people being transgender. “People are born either male or female, and they should stay that way.” “The Bible says it’s wrong so it must be.” “It’s a mental illness, and if those people got some help they’d be cured.” “It’s not natural.” I… Continue reading Not Liking Something Does Not Make it False
The International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDOV) is an annual event that takes place on March 31st. According to the TDOV website, it was founded in 2009 which makes this the tenth year it has been celebrated. The purpose of TDOV is to honor and celebrate the accomplishments and victories of the transgender community, while… Continue reading Transgender Day of Visibility
When my youngest son came out as transgender in January of 2016, he did so in a Facebook life event post. When I read it for the first time, there were words and phrases in the post that I found myself reading over and over. I wasn’t exactly sure what my child was trying to… Continue reading What Exactly Does it Mean to be Transgender?
When my son Leo first came out as transgender, I thought his transition was just about him. I would soon learn that a child’s transition impacts the entire family in one way or another.
My son told us he was transgender through a Facebook life event announcement that I read in the early morning hours of January 2, 2016. At the time, I didn’t understand why my he didn’t come to us with this news. He and I have a pretty strong relationship, and this seemed like one of… Continue reading Your Emotions Aren’t Wrong, But Your Reaction Might Be
I found out my son was transgender on an otherwise ordinary Saturday morning. There I was going about my business, doing all the same things I do every morning when the life announcement post with the little flag caught my eye as I was about to close Facebook. I read the post, re-read it, then… Continue reading What is the Difference Between Gender Identity and Gender Expression?
Three years ago at the start of a new year, on January 2, 2016, my youngest son came out as transgender. At the time, I was too preoccupied with my own reaction to his announcement to pay much attention to the significance of the date. As a lover of fresh starts and new beginnings and… Continue reading New Year. New Start. Now What?
National Daughter’s Day was this week. While I don’t usually pay any attention to #hashtagholidays, this one caught me off guard. Suddenly, social media blew up with photos of the daughters of the people I follow. Captions highlighted why these daughters were so amazing or why their mamas loved them, or something funny or clever… Continue reading Inviting People To Share in Your Grief
Just this week I was checking out a resource that a well-meaning person passed on to me. It’s a non-profit whose mission is to provide support for parents of, and members of the LGBTQ+ community. Perfect, right? How thoughtful for this person to think of me when they met one of the people who founded… Continue reading Inanimate Objects Are Broken, Not People