Five months after my son came out as transgender, my grandfather died. In a year where I was trying to figure out which way was up, suddenly my world went dark. I was already thick in the midst of grief. At the time, I thought it was because I had lost my daughter. I would… Continue reading The Only Way Through Grief is to Move Forward
I remember the day my therapist told me the feeling I was experiencing was grief. It was a few months after Leo came out, and I was staring out her office window watching it snow. The compassion on her face made me cry in those early days, so I would take a break from looking… Continue reading Your Grief Is Not About Your Child Being Transgender
We’ve talked about how vital your support network is after your child comes out as transgender. You need friends and family who can support you so you can support your child. But your friends and family can only help you so much. When my son Leo came out as transgender, it was over the weekend.… Continue reading Your Support Network Should Include a Therapist
In the days after my son Leo came out as transgender, I wasn’t sure who I could talk to about how I was feeling. Part of it was because I didn’t know if my feelings were okay. The other part was more complicated. I didn’t want anyone to misinterpret my emotions as a lack of… Continue reading Who Can You Talk To About Your Child?
When my son Leo came out as transgender, I spent hours trying to learn everything about what that meant. I wanted to know all the terms and acronyms, so I didn’t mess up when I spoke to him about it. I tried to learn all the different types of transitions to understand what his next… Continue reading You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out
My son came out as transgender in a Facebook post six years ago. During the hours of that cold January day, I spent a lot of time on Google. I searched for answers to questions and looked up words I didn’t understand. It did nothing to make me feel better. If anything, all that searching… Continue reading So, Your Child is Transgender. Now What?