LGBTQ

Can You Tell Your Child is Gay Before They Come Out?

Several times a year, I ask my readers what their biggest struggle is with understanding or supporting transgender people. Then I open the conversation up to any other questions they might have. One reader recently asked if it was possible to tell if our children are gay (or lesbian or bisexual or transgender) before they… Continue reading Can You Tell Your Child is Gay Before They Come Out?

LGBTQ

When Your Child is Ready to Come Out

My oldest child, Ember, who is nonbinary and bisexual, decided last winter that they would use only gender-neutral pronouns and change their name. When they told me, we had a lot of conversations about it. Because I was trying to understand them better, I had a lot of questions. One of the questions I asked… Continue reading When Your Child is Ready to Come Out

Book Reviews · LGBTQ

Review: Raising Ryland by Hillary Whittington

Raising Ryland is the tender story of the Whittington family’s four-year journey to teach their deaf child to speak, only to discover that what Ryland had wanted to communicate the most was that he was a boy. Whittington’s narrative takes us on a roller-coaster journey as they learn what they thought was a tomboy phase… Continue reading Review: Raising Ryland by Hillary Whittington

LGBTQ · Mental Health

When You Learn Your Child is Suicidal

It plays like a movie reel in my head. One minute I’m on the third floor of our elementary school in the middle of a reading lesson with fourth graders. The next, I’m in the passenger seat of my husband’s speeding car, on the way to the High School. We’d already lost the time he… Continue reading When You Learn Your Child is Suicidal

LGBTQ

How to Listen Better To What Your Child is Saying

For most of my oldest child’s life, I understood them to be gay. At one point in time, during their college years, they made a FaceBook post about an informal name change. In it, they also referenced gender-neutral pronouns. That summer, I was buried under mountains of college work. We were also preparing to send… Continue reading How to Listen Better To What Your Child is Saying

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Sharing Childhood Stories of Your Transgender Child

Recently, I participated in a workshop about sharing hard stories. I regularly write and share about when my youngest came out as transgender, so I thought it would be more of a learning experience than anything else. I mentioned that I wrote about being the parent of a transgender child, and learned that the focus… Continue reading Sharing Childhood Stories of Your Transgender Child

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What I Wish Others Knew When My Son Came Out

The day I learned my son was transgender, I felt unprepared to respond to the information I had been given. That morning, I spent a long time staring out the windows of our downstairs. I had an endless loop of questions running through my mind, but no answers. What does this mean? Did other people… Continue reading What I Wish Others Knew When My Son Came Out