LGBTQ

Open and Affirming Churches, and How to Find One

Until just a few years ago, I had never heard the phrase open and affirming. My Catholic background taught me that LGBTQ+ people were welcome at church, so long as they weren’t in a relationship that violated church laws. So basically, they had to be alone and celibate. Who would agree to those terms to… Continue reading Open and Affirming Churches, and How to Find One

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When It’s Time to Find a New Faith Community

When people learn you have a transgender child, their reactions vary from shock, to support, to not having the first idea of what to say. All of these are normal. Sometimes, however, well-meaning people respond in ways that are harmful to both the parent and the child. This is especially true of people in a… Continue reading When It’s Time to Find a New Faith Community

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Managing Expectations During the Holidays

As I’ve become a more grown-up adult – as opposed to the time in my life when I was called an adult but felt like an imposter – I’ve realized that a big part of the holidays involves managing expectations. Your own. Your family’s. And other people’s. You essentially become an event planner/social director/professional shopper/caterer/customer… Continue reading Managing Expectations During the Holidays

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Setting Boundaries During the Holidays

As we approach the holiday season, there is increasing pressure to attend social events. These can be with family, friends, co-workers, or other acquaintances. Often, it requires getting together with people you don’t see very often. If you are the parent of a transgender child, this can also mean people who haven’t seen your child… Continue reading Setting Boundaries During the Holidays

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I’m Not a Trans Parent: Admitting When You Are Wrong

In the LGBTQ+ community, we recently observed Trans Parent day, which takes place on the first Sunday in November. According to TransParent.org, which operates a public group on Facebook, this is a day that “celebrates life and the love between Transgender parents and their children. And parents and their Transgender children.” Not either/or, both/and. However,… Continue reading I’m Not a Trans Parent: Admitting When You Are Wrong

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When Parenting Your Child is Confusing

When my son first came out as being transgender, there was a lot I didn’t know and understand. I mistakenly thought gender and sexuality were the same things, and so the whole idea of being transgender was confusing to me. It took me a long time to come to the understanding that much like how… Continue reading When Parenting Your Child is Confusing

LGBTQ · Mental Health

Coming Out As An Ally

Merriam-Webster defines choose, a verb, as: “to select freely and after careful consideration.” The third definition is decide, “to make a final choice or judgment about.” I didn’t choose to be the parent of two LGBTQ+ sons. My oldest son is gay, and my youngest son is transgender, and I am their mother; because these… Continue reading Coming Out As An Ally

LGBTQ · Uncategorized

How to Respond When Others Ask About Your Child

It was March of 2016, and I was at our town’s community center to vote. A woman I had known since I had moved to town was checking me in. As usual, she was asking how my children were. Our children grew up together. Her oldest son was in the same grade as my oldest,… Continue reading How to Respond When Others Ask About Your Child

Book Reviews · LGBTQ

Review: Trans Like Me by CN Lester

Trans Like Me is a powerful blend of biography and cultural exploration into the broad experience of being transgender and how that term encompasses a vast range of gender-diverse people. The reader is introduced to concepts such as dysphoria and gender non-conforming youth, in addition to exploring how the use of gender binaries creates the… Continue reading Review: Trans Like Me by CN Lester