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What I Wish I Knew When My Son Came Out As Transgender

When my son first came out as being transgender, there were a lot of things I didn’t know. What a binder was. How to administer testosterone. All the letters in LGBTQIA+. That transvestite is an out of date term, and many people in the LGBTQ+ community consider it offensive. In those first days, weeks, and… Continue reading What I Wish I Knew When My Son Came Out As Transgender

Book Reviews · LGBTQ

Review: God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines

Matthew Vines’ God and the Gay Christian is a profoundly significant contribution to the conversation surrounding how the church feels about same-sex relationships. Its sole purpose is not to change the mind of the reader. Rather “exploring what the Bible actually says – and doesn’t say – about same-sex relationships” (back cover). Then, letting the… Continue reading Review: God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines

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Open and Affirming Churches, and How to Find One

Until just a few years ago, I had never heard the phrase open and affirming. My Catholic background taught me that LGBTQ+ people were welcome at church, so long as they weren’t in a relationship that violated church laws. So basically, they had to be alone and celibate. Who would agree to those terms to… Continue reading Open and Affirming Churches, and How to Find One

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When It’s Time to Find a New Faith Community

When people learn you have a transgender child, their reactions vary from shock, to support, to not having the first idea of what to say. All of these are normal. Sometimes, however, well-meaning people respond in ways that are harmful to both the parent and the child. This is especially true of people in a… Continue reading When It’s Time to Find a New Faith Community

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Managing Expectations During the Holidays

As I’ve become a more grown-up adult – as opposed to the time in my life when I was called an adult but felt like an imposter – I’ve realized that a big part of the holidays involves managing expectations. Your own. Your family’s. And other people’s. You essentially become an event planner/social director/professional shopper/caterer/customer… Continue reading Managing Expectations During the Holidays

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Setting Boundaries During the Holidays

As we approach the holiday season, there is increasing pressure to attend social events. These can be with family, friends, co-workers, or other acquaintances. Often, it requires getting together with people you don’t see very often. If you are the parent of a transgender child, this can also mean people who haven’t seen your child… Continue reading Setting Boundaries During the Holidays

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I’m Not a Trans Parent: Admitting When You Are Wrong

In the LGBTQ+ community, we recently observed Trans Parent day, which takes place on the first Sunday in November. According to TransParent.org, which operates a public group on Facebook, this is a day that “celebrates life and the love between Transgender parents and their children. And parents and their Transgender children.” Not either/or, both/and. However,… Continue reading I’m Not a Trans Parent: Admitting When You Are Wrong

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When Parenting Your Child is Confusing

When my son first came out as being transgender, there was a lot I didn’t know and understand. I mistakenly thought gender and sexuality were the same things, and so the whole idea of being transgender was confusing to me. It took me a long time to come to the understanding that much like how… Continue reading When Parenting Your Child is Confusing