October 11 is National Coming Out Day, and many LGBTQ+ folks use this opportunity as a chance to come out to the people they love. When my son Leo came out as transgender, it was through a Facebook post that I read shortly after waking on a Saturday morning. I was so overwhelmed by all… Continue reading Your Child Just Came Out. Now What?
When my oldest child Ember first came out as gay in high school (they are bisexual), I was still a member of the Catholic Church. At the time, I was starting to question where the church stood on issues such as women in leadership roles, support for LGBTQ and divorced members, as well as several… Continue reading You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind
When Leo first came out as transgender, I wanted to fly a rainbow flag off our house. Our oldest, Ember, who is non-binary and bisexual, didn’t identify as transgender at the time. To properly respect both of my children, the rainbow flag was the best choice. What kept me from purchasing and flying a rainbow… Continue reading Why I Fly a Rainbow Flag if My Children Are Transgender
My oldest came out as being non-binary in a Facebook post during high school. They didn’t really say much about it and expressed that people could still use their given name and he/him/his pronouns. To my untrained, and non-understanding eye, it felt like a “this is a thing I’m trying on, and I’ll let you… Continue reading What Does it Mean to Be Non-binary?
Sophie Beer’s Love Makes a Family is a picture board book for young readers. It shows in written form all the ways you can love people. At the same time, it shows through the photos all the different ways a family can look. Young readers learn that love isn’t just words that you say to… Continue reading Review: Love Makes a Family by Sophie Beer
When my son Leo first came out as transgender, one of the things I didn’t know that I needed was permission to grieve the child I thought I had. I was trying to model for others how to talk to and about Leo. How to use his new name and pronouns properly. How to talk… Continue reading When You Don’t Know Where To Go To Grieve
Several times a year, I ask my readers what their biggest struggle is with understanding or supporting transgender people. Then I open the conversation up to any other questions they might have. One reader recently asked if it was possible to tell if our children are gay (or lesbian or bisexual or transgender) before they… Continue reading Can You Tell Your Child is Gay Before They Come Out?
Guest post by Andrew Trudeau It is my pleasure to introduce you to people whose lived experiences will help you to have a better understanding of what it is like to be transgender, or the parent of someone who is. I met Andrew Trudeau when he was in college, and now he is engaged to… Continue reading Guys and Dolls: A Coming Out Story
Raising Ryland is the tender story of the Whittington family’s four-year journey to teach their deaf child to speak, only to discover that what Ryland had wanted to communicate the most was that he was a boy. Whittington’s narrative takes us on a roller-coaster journey as they learn what they thought was a tomboy phase… Continue reading Review: Raising Ryland by Hillary Whittington
For most of my oldest child’s life, I understood them to be gay. At one point in time, during their college years, they made a FaceBook post about an informal name change. In it, they also referenced gender-neutral pronouns. That summer, I was buried under mountains of college work. We were also preparing to send… Continue reading How to Listen Better To What Your Child is Saying