The day I learned my son was transgender, I felt unprepared to respond to the information I had been given. That morning, I spent a long time staring out the windows of our downstairs. I had an endless loop of questions running through my mind, but no answers. What does this mean? Did other people… Continue reading What I Wish Others Knew When My Son Came Out
When my son first came out as being transgender, there were a lot of things I didn’t know. What a binder was. How to administer testosterone. All the letters in LGBTQIA+. That transvestite is an out of date term, and many people in the LGBTQ+ community consider it offensive. In those first days, weeks, and… Continue reading What I Wish I Knew When My Son Came Out As Transgender
Merriam-Webster defines choose, a verb, as: “to select freely and after careful consideration.” The third definition is decide, “to make a final choice or judgment about.” I didn’t choose to be the parent of two LGBTQ+ sons. My oldest son is gay, and my youngest son is transgender, and I am their mother; because these… Continue reading Coming Out As An Ally
I Am J is a novel that deep dives into the hard truths of being transgender and how it impacts not only the individual person but also their entire family. Cris Beam’s character J struggles with how to tell his close friends and family that his personal identity matches how he outwardly expresses his gender,… Continue reading Review: I Am J by Cris Beam
Six months after my youngest son came out as transgender, my Grampa passed away. This came during a time when my heart was already raw. I was still navigating the turbulent waters of loss and grief, as I came to accept life without the presence of a daughter in it. There were days when I… Continue reading Using Your Child’s Chosen Name
When my youngest son came out as transgender in January of 2016, he did so in a Facebook life event post. When I read it for the first time, there were words and phrases in the post that I found myself reading over and over. I wasn’t exactly sure what my child was trying to… Continue reading What Exactly Does it Mean to be Transgender?
When my son Leo first came out as transgender, I thought his transition was just about him. I would soon learn that a child’s transition impacts the entire family in one way or another.
My son told us he was transgender through a Facebook life event announcement that I read in the early morning hours of January 2, 2016. At the time, I didn’t understand why my he didn’t come to us with this news. He and I have a pretty strong relationship, and this seemed like one of… Continue reading Your Emotions Aren’t Wrong, But Your Reaction Might Be