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Support for Ourselves So We Can Support Our Child

For the second year in a row, the most-read post on this website is “You Can Grieve and Support Your Child.” This year, it has almost 4,000 views. When I wrote it in the fall of 2019, it was in response to a New York Times article that said parents who grieve after their child… Continue reading Support for Ourselves So We Can Support Our Child

Book Reviews · LGBTQ

Review: Gender: Your Guide by Lee Airton

Gender: Your Guide – A Gender-Friendly Primer On What to Know, What to Say, and What to Do in the New Gender Culture by Lee Airton, Ph.D. is a book that should be on every bookcase in America. You don’t need to have a transgender child or family member to read this book. The book… Continue reading Review: Gender: Your Guide by Lee Airton

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Sharing Your Pronouns is an Invitation

October 20 is International Pronouns Day. It’s a day to commit to learning about and sharing your pronouns. Before my son Leo came out as transgender, I never gave a single thought to my own or anyone else’s pronouns. It never occurred to me that people would have pronouns that didn’t match the gender they… Continue reading Sharing Your Pronouns is an Invitation

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Being the Parent of a Transgender Child is Lonely

During the first year after my son Leo came out as transgender, I told my therapist I had never been more lonely in my life. During crises and tragedies, people often close ranks around one another. They offer support and comfort. When a child comes out as transgender, however, it’s different. No one knows what… Continue reading Being the Parent of a Transgender Child is Lonely

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What I Wish Others Knew When My Son Came Out

The day I learned my son was transgender, I felt unprepared to respond to the information I had been given. That morning, I spent a long time staring out the windows of our downstairs. I had an endless loop of questions running through my mind, but no answers. What does this mean? Did other people… Continue reading What I Wish Others Knew When My Son Came Out

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I’m Not a Trans Parent: Admitting When You Are Wrong

In the LGBTQ+ community, we recently observed Trans Parent day, which takes place on the first Sunday in November. According to TransParent.org, which operates a public group on Facebook, this is a day that “celebrates life and the love between Transgender parents and their children. And parents and their Transgender children.” Not either/or, both/and. However,… Continue reading I’m Not a Trans Parent: Admitting When You Are Wrong

LGBTQ · Mental Health

Coming Out As An Ally

Merriam-Webster defines choose, a verb, as: “to select freely and after careful consideration.” The third definition is decide, “to make a final choice or judgment about.” I didn’t choose to be the parent of two LGBTQ+ sons. My oldest son is gay, and my youngest son is transgender, and I am their mother; because these… Continue reading Coming Out As An Ally

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Pride Month and Stonewall – Fifty Years Later I’m Still Afraid for My Sons

Until the last year or two, I didn’t notice that during June, every corporation, it seems, comes out with an item plastered in rainbow colors and promotes their ‘Pride Line’ and encourages the LGBTQ+ community to be ‘loud and proud.’ Shoe stores are selling rainbow laces and water bottles, and every other ad on Facebook… Continue reading Pride Month and Stonewall – Fifty Years Later I’m Still Afraid for My Sons