It wasn’t until I became the parent of a transgender child, and had to do the hard work of letting go of the expectations I held of who I thought they were, and what I thought their life would be like, that I realized I had expectations for them to begin with. It was an… Continue reading Letting Go of Who I Thought My Child Was
Recently, I participated in a workshop about sharing hard stories. I regularly write and share about when my youngest came out as transgender, so I thought it would be more of a learning experience than anything else. I mentioned that I wrote about being the parent of a transgender child, and learned that the focus… Continue reading Sharing Childhood Stories of Your Transgender Child
One of the first things I did as a newly pregnant mama was to think about the names I wanted to consider for my baby. I was pacing back and forth in the bathroom of my parent’s condo, waiting to see if the First Response test would show one line or two. When you are… Continue reading When You Struggle With Your Child’s Name
The day I learned my son was transgender, I felt unprepared to respond to the information I had been given. That morning, I spent a long time staring out the windows of our downstairs. I had an endless loop of questions running through my mind, but no answers. What does this mean? Did other people… Continue reading What I Wish Others Knew When My Son Came Out
When my son first came out as being transgender, there were a lot of things I didn’t know. What a binder was. How to administer testosterone. All the letters in LGBTQIA+. That transvestite is an out of date term, and many people in the LGBTQ+ community consider it offensive. In those first days, weeks, and… Continue reading What I Wish I Knew When My Son Came Out As Transgender
Matthew Vines’ God and the Gay Christian is a profoundly significant contribution to the conversation surrounding how the church feels about same-sex relationships. Its sole purpose is not to change the mind of the reader. Rather “exploring what the Bible actually says – and doesn’t say – about same-sex relationships” (back cover). Then, letting the… Continue reading Review: God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines
In October of 2017, I began researching a new church I was interested in attending. Maybe. Someone at work had told me about it. I had said that I was interested in finding a new faith community. That I had been thinking about starting over somewhere new. They thought it might be a good match,… Continue reading Starting Over at a New Church
Until just a few years ago, I had never heard the phrase open and affirming. My Catholic background taught me that LGBTQ+ people were welcome at church, so long as they weren’t in a relationship that violated church laws. So basically, they had to be alone and celibate. Who would agree to those terms to… Continue reading Open and Affirming Churches, and How to Find One
When people learn you have a transgender child, their reactions vary from shock, to support, to not having the first idea of what to say. All of these are normal. Sometimes, however, well-meaning people respond in ways that are harmful to both the parent and the child. This is especially true of people in a… Continue reading When It’s Time to Find a New Faith Community
Amy Ellis Nutt’s Becoming Nicole is the triumphant story of the Maines family, and how they overcame discrimination in their small-town Maine community and internal struggles within their own hearts. In 1997, Wayne and Kelly Maines adopted what they thought were identical twin boys, naming one Wyatt and the other Jonas. By the time Wyatt… Continue reading Review: Becoming Nicole by Amy Ellis Nutt
